The Married Man's Guide to Imminent Retirement.

1. First, this isn't about you. It's about your marriage.

2. Think you know her? Forget it. You've been space ships passing for light years. Whether she's been staying home or pursuing her own career demons. Prepare for lonely days at home, or worse, your new role as sudden outsider on her turf.

3. Take time to clarify even the simplest statement — shorthand matters now. If you can misunderstand what she meant, you will, and vice versa.

4. Your can't read her miind. You think you can, don't you?

5. We know it's hard, but you must start thinking like a partner now, not a leader.

6. What did you discover about your marriage when you retired?
Tell:

— DN